parents at Child Development

Very often there is a problem in a family: a child asks for expensive things that his classmates have like brand-name clothes, some modern toys. It is a simple situation as young children always like to boast and to show their supremacy. As a parent you should be wise and first of all think of the things you can really afford. And then try to explain to your child why you cannot buy this brand-name shirt. Never say “no” to your child’s requests. You should say “no” when his requests exceed your guidelines. It makes a big difference how you will say. This word can become either a bridge between you and your child or it can become something that’ll make him closer to you. If you say “no” in an angry voice and start to cry without any explanation, your child may feel as if you do not understand him at all. The best thing you can do in this situation is to explain and to look with favour on child’s wishes. You can say like this: “I wish you could have everything you want but you cannot have these expensive shoes. We want to spend money on good food or on some useful things or to go on some trip. ”You do not have to give some wonk explanation, you only should let you child know in a few words what your thinking is. He (the child) must understand that he is brought up in a family and that he has to consider the needs of the whole family.
The main thing you should pass on to your child that all material things are much less important than love, respect and attention. You should have enough patience to listen to your child attentively when he will tell you not for the first time that he cannot live without this modern shirt, trousers and so on. This is just feelings. Your child won’t die if you don’t buy him one more toy that is so popular among his classmates at this moment. Letting him tell about his wishes and requests, you make him closer to you. As parents we must encourage children when they can cope with their emotions and feelings or vise a versa: we must teach them how to do it if they are not able. Your child must be assured that his life won’t change if you don’t buy him the thing he dreams about.  

The fastest growing group of mobile phone users is children and young people. This growth is encouraged by mobile phone companies which have lots of benefits from selling phones to children. For example children are mostly interested in such additional appliances, as video-camera, mp3- player, that modern mobile phones have.
Experts warn that parents should ensure their children use mobile phones only when the mobile phone is absolutely necessary because of the potential health risks. They should limit children’s unnecessary use of mobile phones. At the same time there is still no proof mobile phones are unsafe. No one can say exactly whether mobile phones are dangerous or not. But because of the fact that they have been used for a relatively short time and the possibility of health risks still remains. The use of mobile phones should be forbidden for children under eight years old.  It is recommended for parents who have children aged between 8 and 14 make their own judgments about the risks and benefits of mobile phone’s usage. There is no absolute evidence now that a mobile phone causes some serious illnesses but various studies have raised serious concerns. If these risks really exist, children are people who will mostly be affected. The younger children are, the greater danger is.
German study has hinted at an increase in cancer around base stations, while a project supported by the European Union had shown evidence of cell damage from fields typical of those of mobile phones.
According to the latest researches the risk of ear tumors increases by four times for people who use mobile phones ten years or more. The researchers that took place in Britain showed that the radiation of mobile phones was able to damage DNA in human cells.
90 % of schoolchildren have mobile phones worldwide. But most of them as well as their parents ignore the fact that there are some unknown effects of microwave radiation that are made by phones. This radiation greatly effects on developing brains. An average child spends up to 45 minutes a day making calls. Certain researches that took place among 1000 pupils have shown that 941 of them are children under 16 years old. 77% of children use their phone for less than 15 minutes a day, about 5 % of children use their mobile phones for more than 45 minutes but only 11% of young generation realize a bad influence of a mobile phone on their health. Text messages are sent and received by 96% of the children surveyed. 
 But of course it is up to parents to decide whether to buy a mobile phone for their children. They ( parents) must weigh up and compare the possibility of still unknown health risks with the security benefits to children, carrying a mobile.
Let us think why mobile phones are so popular among children:
-         first of all mobile phones give them the sense of ownership;
-         children can use mobiles where and when they like;
-         young users can portray an image to others;
-         many phones are provided with breathtaking games , music, Internet access;
-         lots of mobile phones can be used as digital cameras, radios, mp3- players and so on;
-         owning a mobile phone for some children provides a status among friends;
-         a mobile phone gives a child constant communication with friends and relatives. As we all know all children enjoy communications.
The benefits or immediate communication is a necessity: we feel safer when we know that our child can contact if he is in trouble. All in all the use of a mobile phone is convenient.
But when the mobile phone becomes not just an essential item for communication but instead something that takes control of a child’s life parents have a right to be worried ( if for example teenagers can do nothing but sitting by their mobile phones, waiting for calls or text messages).
 If you are thinking of buying your child a mobile phone try to set some rules to your child such as:
When they can use it;
Who to give a phone number to;
How it will be funded;
Only to reply to people your child knows.
At that very moment we have no exact things to worry about. We should know the measure in all and do abuse the use of mobile phone and then everything will be all right.

As Joseph Addison said long time ago “reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body”. But to my mind this saying does not apply to the present generation. This happens because children nowadays are interested mostly in computer games, mobile phones and TV. An average child spends three hours a day in internet café or computer club.
Doctors consider that the best lullaby is reading. But instead of this children watch TV or phone their friends.  Nowadays most information for education children get from Internet. They practically do not read paper books, only few of them visit libraries. But from my point of view nothing will substitute paper books and the pleasure we get while reading and holding the book in our arms.
The best way to develop the habit of reading is to cultivate it in childhood. Parents should read to children to children, keep a home library and as a result children will get interested in books.  

How can we cope with child’s school problems? They are so different that sometimes it is very difficult even for specialists to cope with them. Sometimes parents have not enough patience and understanding. But of course most of all children suffer from school problems. If these problems follow one after another a child simply give in as he/she begins to consider himself helpless and unable and all his/her efforts seem useless. Psychologists are convinced that the results of education depend not only on someone’s abilities to accomplish a task but also on assurance in its accomplishment. But if failures follow one after another finally any child says:”I will never accomplish it.”
Here I can give some piece of advice that can help the parents to cope with difficulties if they exist:
1. First of all we should not despair if some school problems appear. But if this happens we should not show this to our child as if this problem is our personal problem. Our main task is to help a child.
2. You should be ready for a long-term work with your child as he can not cope with his problems himself.
3. Your main help is to support him and to assure his strength. Try to release the feeling of intension and fault for the failures. If you pay attention to your child only only to ask how he is you create a foundation for new problems.
4. Forget the question: “What mark have you got?” Do not make him immediately tell you about school affairs if your child is upset. Let him tell you when he wants to tell you himself. Children in most cases do so when they are sure in parents’ support.
5. Do not discuss the problems with a teacher when your child is present. It is better to do this without him. Do not admire the success of other children too much.
6. You should take interest in homework accomplishment only if you constantly help your child. You must have enough patience when you work with your child as it is very hard to overcome any difficulties. It is very important to be totally absorbed by your child. None must disturb you. It is also very important with whom your child will do his homework. Mothers are gentle-hearted, but they have not enough patience and they are too emotional. Fathers are crueler but they are quieter at the same time.
During preparing the homework a child must stop to have rest every half an hour. It is very important for the health of your child.
7. Try to support your child if he does not succeed at school and always encourage him if he shows even  insignificant good results. It is very important for every child to know that his parents notice his success.  But from the other side your child must not get used to your encouragement.
8. A child with problems at school should have a strict day regimen as it is very important in overcoming his problems.
9. Try to spend  with your child as much time as possible and you maybe can avoid most of existing problems. 

Right at the end of XIX century in the city of Milford, that in American state Nebraska, in modest Millz family the boy was born. He has received a proud name Victor from his parents. The childhood of our hero is noted by a little essential achievements.
Further there was a military service on the American fleet, concurrent on time with the first world war, then  he worked as a welder. He studied at George Washington’s university at chemical technology.
From the moment of the ending of study (1926) and before retire (1961) Millz was working at  Procter and Gamble company, showing miracles of an ingenuity in a post of the leading chemist-technologist.
Nevertheless his life did not consist at all of one work. The daughter was born, and after some decades Millz became the grandfather. As there was not one grandson, Millz had to help her daughter in his free time. We can imagine the thoughts of a grandfather who had to pull out wet diapers from his own grandsons, wash and dry them.
Millz has created an idea that it was possible not to wash them. It was  necessary to throw out! And on this idea of the great chemist we shall for a short while stop our attention. The idea of a disposable diaper was born not because grandfather Victor wished to improve a life of the grandsons. The essence of  Millz invention has been dictated by man’s egoism, elementary aspiration to facilitate a life to himself.
So, house torments of Millz have led him to mobilize several employees that the idea has received a practical embodiment.
The primary goal was a creation of a folded lining with high absorbing ability. And this lining was planned to place in plastic cowards of the special form.
First models  Millz has tested on his own grandsons. In general he tested everything on his family. His wife and daughter perfectly remembered that time when everybody was cleaning their teeth with a tooth-powder, and they did it by a liquid tooth-paste that was thought up by Millz.
Home tests have confirmed a perspectivity of idea, so then it was necessary  to create an experimental batch and to look how the American population would react to a new product.
The population has reacted extremely negatively and the idea of disposable diapers was  nearly to die.
It was difficult to think up conditions for tests more adverse. Disposable diapers have tried to use in the summer in the city of Dallas when the temperature did not fall below 90F. It is rather easy to imagine now the reaction of parents who, in the described weather conditions, have been proposed, to dress on the child plastic cowards. And few agreed daredevils very quickly stopped experiments with babies as the irritation of a skin arose almost instantly.
But as it is known bad result is also a result. Fortunately, developers didn’t feel utterly discouraged. As a result, March, 1959 became date in the history of the mankind which has marked first successful mass use of disposable diapers.
The experimental batch has been prepared for this time from 37 thousand diapers. Founders have refused the dense plastic that nearly has not ruined good undertaking, the product became softer, the lining absorbed a moisture is better, moreover it was offered at once two variants  on buttons and on stickums. The city of Rochester of state of New York was the place for experiments. Two thirds of the families, that participated in experiment, have admitted that fact, that new disposable diapers, for certain, are not worse old and habitual reusable. They liked the model with buttons more.
There were two tasks : first, to think up of the product name and and the second thing was to create the equipment for mass production of disposable diapers.
With the first task not without difficulties of course, but coped quickly enough. Having touched set of variants, a diaper was named “Pampers” using as a basis an English word “pamper”, that means “to indulge”. Some people like other variants of translation more - “to cherish, “coddle”, but it does not change an essence of business. 
The second task was much serious. Some technologists even assure, that, at least, in long-term history  of Procter and Gamble there was nothing more difficult than that. At first sight all is elementary: there are three layers which should be stuck together. But when from a lining the heap of a dust is formed, and this dust incorporates to glue and scatters in all the sides any equipment very quickly stops to be the equipment. Nevertheless, the technology of product could finally be improved, and pampers  began the victorious procession all over the world. Firstly it (procession) was not so such impetuous, and the main brake of this promotion was the price of a product. Pampers liked parents, but, in view of the price in 10 cents for a unit, economical Americans were ready to continue washing.
And only after the volume of production grew in some times, the price has satisfied all - both buyers and manufacturers. The ripened revolutionary situation has predetermined a full and unconditional victory of disposable diapers over greater pleasure of all progressive mankind.

TV is the powerful mass media involving both adults and children. It is also a favourite kind for children for spending their free time watching TV. Thus it is necessary to consider, that each fourth child from eight till twelve years has his/her own TV. As a whole advertising (children’s and adult together) makes 10 % of all screen time.
It seems, anybody does not doubt any more that the modern industry of advertising actively maintains children.

Last researches show, that children define about half of all family purchases that makes more than 90 billion euro a year at a level of the country.

Researches of social psychologists have shown, that children till 8 years
-      do not always distinguish television advertising from other transfers and are not capable to distinguish its convincing purpose;
- illegibly enough trust TV advertising;
- wish to get the advertised goods and finger in this occasion of parents; while growing the child looks through 350 000 rollers
Many advertisement makers think that it is not useful to try to catch a recognition of people with already settled sights and persuade them to buy products . It is much more favourable to involve in itself the young audience easily perceiving all new, with not settled tastes, habits, with even not generated style and a way of life. The generation, since young years brought up in spirit of adherence to the certain brand, will keep the attachment during all life.
Thus, the modern child who has not issued yet as the person, not always still able to distinguish bad from good, harmful from useful, already knows, than it is possible to satisfy the thirst, what beer correct where to find guarantees and what to do, if there is no tooth-brush…

Not the secret, that the majority of adult televiewers does not like to look advertising rollers.
And small children practically do not have feeling of irritation because of the same advertising clips which repeat infinitely. The same teleroller they are ready to look repeatedly and with indefatigable interest. Kids from 4 till 6 years, and not so solvent adults continue to watch TV during translation of advertising blocks.

Psychologists consider that, ”small children are involved first of all with movement on the screen and a bright picture, instead of sense of the advertising message. The stream of the semantic information is perceived by them unconsciously. It is based on physiological feature of recognition: the attention of the person is focused on changes in surrounding space, instead of that is constant. Without additional strong-willed effort the person cannot long concentrate on stationary object. The weariness and attention collects is switched spontaneously. And on the contrary, the more changes, the stronger attention to them.
Modern advertising is characterized by dynamism. The child completely falls under authority of advertising. In advertising clips visual images vary so quickly, that the attention of the child simply has not time to get tired and obediently follows them.
Always remember that the unique purpose of any advertising - to force you to buy something. According to this purpose also perceive all “creative” attempts, even if they deliberately noncommercial as in such kind they can be especially dangerous. If to follow even only to this piece of advice half of television advertising will not cause in you anything, except for bewilderment.
There is a lot of debates about the impact of advertising on children’s mind.  There are people who think that there is some useful information for children in any advertisement that helps their developing mind. Some advertisements are funny and as everybody knows laugh prolongs our life.  Children get used to such notions as price, money, work. But I agree with people who think that advertising mostly brings harm for children who take the first steps in their life.

The birth of a child is an important event at all points, including a psychological aspect. As a rule, all members of a family are looking forward to the birth of a child. But it also happens that there is some kind of anxiety as we worry about the future of our child. The attitude to a child should be found in personality of his/her parents, in their experience and impressions of their own life. One of the most efficient source is the impression of a childhood and experience in relationships with their own parents. If our childhood was happy and we always were surrounded by people who loved and took care of us, then it is obviously that during all our life we will have a belief that to be a child is wonderful.  No wonder, that people with good light childhood, when they become adults, more often are eager to have their own children and always wish them to have a similar pilgrimage without the mistakes that have already been done by their parents. Young parents usually follow the same principles in upbringing of their children as they sometime experienced themselves. From my point of view it is not right in some way, cause we raise a new person who cannot be the same as we are. Of course we obtain some experience while we bring up our child, while different relations with other parents. We also can obtain some experience from TV-programs. We also should take into account an experience in relations with friends and relatives, an experience of our wife or husband. If young people experience satisfaction in their intimate feelings, if their love has a supraliminal direction, then we can say for sure that very soon they would like to see continuation of their happiness in a child. About the thing what a child means to young parents we can judge if we take an example of a couple that does not have its own children and who take a child from a children’s home for example. There we can see a willingness to have someone, whom we can give our love and care, who will be the affirmation of a simple fact that the highest destination of a family consists in the continuation of mankind. A baby, who is unable to survive in the world without his/her parents, homuncular defenceless child just because of his/her nakedness allows two beloved people to outlast a joy of revelation , satisfaction and tremor, anxiety and care that are generated by a flourishing life of a child. This very child gives the parents the possibility to outlast amazing feelings that we cannot compare with anything else, enriches the internal world of the parents in some way and also gives some kind of life experience that can be obtained only in joint life of the parents and their children. With the appearance of a child, a family unit develops and becomes stronger and with the growth of a child the parents also progress and acquire inimitable life wisdom that is peculiar only to a human being.

Every woman does not be pregnant alone if she lives with intimate person. Usually both partners are pregnant. But what does it mean? It is not a secret, that people who live together have the same thoughts and opinions; they bear resemblance to each other. Even have the same symptoms of sickness. Men take hard pregnancy practically as women. There is a good people’s saying: “We are pregnant” or “We wait a child”
The situation of pregnancy for a man, who lives near, is more extreme than for a woman. She simply meets her engagements. Every woman knows that it is her mission to become a mom. And motherhood is the main purpose in the life. The same situation we can see in the nature. Males are a match for females, chase about them very carefully. Females choose prepotent and the most healthy male with thinks to have the most healthy and valuable descendants. Then, when the female has chosen, everybody wants to reproduce. Decree of nature! And after the female has become pregnant, she does not allow coming near the male. She has reached her goal. The next period is child-bearing. In the nature the male is only means, and the goal is posterity.
In the life people have another variety of means and goals, which are more global than animals have. But motherhood still remains unconscious instinct of every woman. That is why in spite of hard child-bearing and delivery, women want to have their own children. But about what does think every man, when he has heard this news? News about approaching fatherhood for man, especially young, ambition and energetic, firstly cause a real shock. He does not fell happy. He does not think about his contribution to the history. He does not think that someone will have his surname and will continue his family. I’m sorry, but the majority of the men think that they lost their sweet liberty and unconcerned adolescence. But not all of course! Some think like this: “How did it happen? I’m not ready…”
As for women, all their thoughts direct to upcoming baby. People say that expectant mother is more laid-back. She has unusual enigmatic look, softness and defenselessness. The man feels alarm, panic and fear of the unknown. His happiness comes much later. Men become responsible for the child. They have to protect their woman from the difficulties of the rest of the world. Pregnancy causes radical changes in the life of the both, in their relations, attitude to the life. It is a real strength test. It is a limitation of needs, responsibility for future, rebuilding of the plans and reconsideration of life values. It is a critical situation, only without critical days.
The conduct of future father depends on a lot of factors. Firstly, on his internal and individual features, upbringing, relations with his parents, attitude to the wife, maturity as an individual, readiness to realize emergent difficulties and new responsibility and desire to show his worth in a new role: defender, supporter,  bread-winner and educator. It is very difficult for a man to be in the mood for experiences of his wife. From very beginning a woman contacts with her future baby. Pregnancy gives a wonderful chance to receive a lot of new feelings. It gives a feel of unity, divine pacification. Some men are delighted with woman’s capacity for giving a birth to a new person. The others perceive it easy, as physiological peculiarity. This feature from one side causes a feeling of women’s power and from another a feeling of men’s imperfection. This state of affairs provokes a man to compensate such situation. And as a result they work a lot, find a new woman or spend all their free time with friends.
In the beginning a man faces only with losses (from his point of view!) – less care of his wife, loss of his liberty, social and  everyday problems, uncertainty and alarm for his future life. Sometimes a man feels that the baby takes his place, that the woman becomes all-sufficient and does not need him. Fear to become useless is the most serious emotional experience of every man.
Expectant woman can evoke in the man an image of his mother. And his reaction to the pregnancy will depend on a lot of his relations with the mom. Men like a big children!
Pregnancy is a real chance to strengthen a family. Both partners can not be free, because their future baby binds them as invisible thread. Sometimes men try to come back to their past life, time when they were really free. And as a result they can have affair with another woman. It looks like as psychological relaxation from new problems and future concerns. Some men are bored with their expectant wives, because women speak only about the baby and problems with their health. They are not so interesting interlocutors as it was before. And as a result men find passions and hobbies.
It is very difficult for man to understand what happens in the organism of his expectant wife. He can not have the same feelings according to his biological nature. But nowadays the scientists states that there are expectant man. Some men try to be imbued with pregnancy of their wives. The level of hormones in blood of this men increases. But this does not damage them. On the contrary, these men become the most careful and attentive fathers. After the delivery the level of hormones in blood rehabilitates itself. Such men for nine months are psychologically ready to the birth of the baby. And the baby before the birth has a positive image of his father. This active conduct of the man brings together both partners and influences positive to the process of pregnancy, emotional state of the woman and valuable intellectual development of the baby in future.

The first disposable pampers appeared in the USA in 1961. In the early seventies they quickly evolve, as all manufactures learn more about the main requirements of their customers. All sizes of pampers, comfortable clasps appeared in this every year. Absorbent characteristics become more and more better.
Nowadays, every mother does not refuse disposable pampers, because they have a lot of advantages over gauze pampers. Convenience and easiness in using, saving of efforts and time, and the main – dryness, comfort and appreciable benefit for the baby – are the main advantages of disposable pampers.
With the advent of disposable pampers all mothers throughout the world do not need to launder swaddling clothes as they did some years ago. And now they can find more time for their children. Walks in fresh wind became longer and easier, because all mothers do not wait that their baby can piss and they have to go home immediately in order to change his clothes. It is very convenient, because in case of walk, which is too far from the house, mothers have not to return home with crying baby. Also pampers kindly influence both the dream of the baby and his parents. Mothers have not to be up late at night in order to change clothes of crying baby.
 But every good invention will be useless if a person uses it wrongly. So, parents should not constantly pack up the baby in disposable pampers. When they change pampers they must leave their baby naked in order to his skin can breathe. The doctors do not recommend to leave the baby in the same disposable pampers more than six hours, it is necessary to change it every four hour and, of course, more better to change it every time the baby pissed. If the baby does not sleep his parents can take off pampers and let him take air-bath.
Now I would like to draw your attention that, firstly, you should not name all diapers “pampers” as Pampers is a trade mark of child’s disposable diapers of the company the Procter & Gamble. Moony, Goon, Huggies, Pampers, Libero and the other are child’s disposable diapers and it is wrong to name them pampers.
Secondly, in order to choose the right mark of disposable diapers for your baby, you should know some specific features. So, disposable diapers function the next way:  liquid passes through the integumentary layer very quickly, the adsorbent takes up this liquid and keeps it from contact with the skin of the baby. It is really very important to minimize this contact in order to prevent irritation and keep the skin of the baby healthy. Disposable diapers basically consist of paper. Absorbing material is a medley of cellulose and super absorbent, which change in gel during the contact with the liquid. In that way, a diaper absorbs the excess of liquid and keeps the skin dry. But there are such diapers that only consist of cellulose. This type of diapers is worse, because absorb the liquid less than the first ones. And in this case there is a risk of irritation.
Modern diapers have special clasps that help to keep a nappy on the baby. A lot of diapers have flexible cuffs round the lags and flexible belt.
Recently the Japanese have invented so called “breath” nappies “Moony”. Their external layer has microscopical holes that help the entrance of air. Their internal layer consists of gauzy stripes with special aloe balsam, which creates a thin, but reliable protective barrier and helps to avoid irritation. They have good design, beautiful clasps and absorb the liquid extremely well.
Now you know a lot about disposable diapers. And it will be easier for you to choose the right ones.
However, a lot of moms throughout the world try to avoid the using of diapers. The reason is obvious. It is disagreements between the doctors. Ones believe that disposable diapers are very useful, because they protect the skin of the baby and help to save time of their moms. But the others think that they are enough dangerous because can lead to boy’s sterility. But who are right?
First of all I would like to say that the skin of the baby is not as perfect as adults have. In ideal it functions as double-sided barrier: inside it should keep moisture and albumen, but outside protects from mechanical and bacterial influences. It a scientific fact, that our skin keeps about 17 per cent of all moisture. But thin and delicate layer is not reliable, and it can not protect the organism from physical influences completely. The formation of coverlet ends to 2-3 year.
When irritants influence the skin of the baby, inflammatory process appears
in the places of contact between swaddling bands and the skin. The doctors name this inflammation as dermatitis. The first mention of this sickness appeared in 117 B.C. At that time people bathed their children in medley of wine, urine and salt solution in order to get rid of this illness. From this time all doctors throughout the world rack their brains over the fact how to overcome this sore. But in the eighties they understood the main reason of this disaster. This sickness begins because of lingering contact between urine and the skin. As a result the moisture increases and it leads to the rise of friction. So the skin becomes weak and can not protect from harmful substances.
After a lot of discussions about harm of diapers, the institution of baby health made a scientific investigation. This search proved that internal microclimate of diapers was highly favourable for the skin of the baby. This institution fixed fewer cases of dermatitis and reddenings. The average temperature did not change inside the “cocoon” in comparison with tissue diapers. That is why the talks of some urologists about high temperature inside the diapers and as a result boy’s sterility are unjustified. My congratulations!

Today I would like to draw your attention to culture differences and people attitude to the birth of baby in different countries. And I have chosen the most interesting countries from my point of view such as Muslim ones. So, what does happen in Muslim family and community after the birth of the baby? The birth of every new person the Moslems consider as a great gift of Allah, the most important event in the life of every Muslim family. There are specials conditions, which regulate the actions of parents and their relatives in connection with the birth of baby.
1. The first sigh and the first word. The first word that every Muslim baby hears is “God”. As soon as the baby born in his ears whisper the words of praising of the Most High: in the right – appeal to the prayer and to the left – the second appeal to the prayer.  As a rule the father does it. This ceremony has a deep sense.  According to Islam, Satan, the main enemy of all people, waits impatiently for the birth of every baby in order to lead astray. That is why it is very important that the baby hears the appeal to God before the call of Satan. The words of belief in God and faithfulness will accompany him during his life.
2. Sweetness of the first moments. After the baby has heard the divine words it is necessary to anoint his lips and oral cavity with date mass. The mother does it the next manner. Firstly she chews well a date, than takes a small part of it and puts in the mouth of the baby. Then she massages his oral cavity with light movements in order to place this mass throughout the oral cavity. In the same time she reads prayers to health and good wishes to her baby. If the parents have not a date, they can use every sweet fruit. People consider that this massage strengthens the muscles of baby. According to the legend the prophet Muhammad himself have done this procedure in the first time.
3. Hair worth weight in gold. In seven days after the birth of baby it is desired to shave his head and distribute among the poor silver and gold, the weight of which is equal to shaved hair. In another case the parents can give a sum of money corresponding the quantity of this precious metal. But what the parents should do, if the baby does not have hair at all? They should simply distribute charity among those, who need it.
4. The importance of the name. The choice of the name is very important for the Moslems. Bur there are some disagreements according to the target date. Some insist on calling the baby in the seventh day after his birth. The others persist in doing it in the first day. But the day is not so important. The attitude to this event in the life of every person is much more significant. The Moslems should call their children in the name of prophets and angels. It is reasonable that that the name of the first prophet Muhammad is the most popular. But there are other recommendations. A person, who is responsible for it, should observe on the name of the baby in order to save him from offensive mockeries. People say that even Prophet himself changed disharmonious names. The names of boys include not only the names of prophets and angels, but also ones, which have the root “abd”. Girls usually have the names of the women from the family of Prophet
5. Thank God. It is desired (if the parents of the baby have enough money) in the seventh day after his birth to sacrifice a sheep. If the girl has born, it is necessary to sacrifice one sheep in the case of the birth of boy it is necessary to slaughter one or two sheep. It depends on the financial position of his father. But nowadays in the cities it is not so easy to sacrifice an animal. But the Moslems try to resolve this problem. They go to suburb in order to do this ceremonial there. People, who are too far from Islam, may think that this custom is very exotic or even barbaric. But the Moslems believe that God doe not need this sacrifice. They think that people themselves need it.
6. Circumcision as a sign of submission to Allah. This custom is very ancient and not only people of Islam do it. The Moslems do it with their sons in order to show that the parents, completely submitted to Allah, pass the baby to his will. A person with a special medical and religion education can do the circumcision. He can do it both at home and in any hospital, where there is a surgeon. There is no a single opinion about the day of circumcision. The majority of doctors believe that it necessary to do the circumcision in the same day with the shaving of hair of the baby. It means in the seventh day after his birth. For example, in Turkey, doctors do it with the boys at the age of 7-10. However, all boys of the full legal age should be cut.
The possibility to have children is very important for all Moslems. They marry not only to satisfy their carnal needs. It is much more essential to born and to bring-up own children. The Moslems believe that children are the greatest plenty of God. That is why in Muslim families the wife and the husband are not slave and sovereign, their relations are build on mutual respect and care.

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