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I think that Asian cultures are very specific and incomprehensible for European and American people. For example, Chinese culture is very old and it has some very interesting customs.
Some of them are about pregnancy.
In Chinese culture, they function to protect the pregnant woman and child from ‘malign influences’ and to avert problems with pregnancy and birthing such as miscarriage, stillbirth, death of the mother and imperfections in the newborn.
Many customs relate to the behavior and environment of the pregnant Chinese woman. Working with glue or other adhesives may cause birthing complications and hammering nails is thought to cause deformity in the fetus. Restraint in day to day life is also required of the mother: the use of foul language must be avoided as this may cause the baby to be cursed. So may torturing, striking or killing an animal: anthropomorphic results may occur- e.g. if a rat is struck the newborn child will look like a rat and behave like one! (Actually I don’t understand it!)
Consequently, traditional Chinese society blames the mother of a child that is physically disabled or ‘deformed’ for the ‘imperfections’ of the child, as it is believed that this has resulted from the mother’s actions during pregnancy. In former times, infanticide often occurred in such circumstances, to spare the mother shame, public humiliation and ostracism by in-laws. Well I don’t think it’s right. Probably sometimes it is a mother’s fault if she smoked or drinked a lot during the pregnancy. But what about different genetic deviations and other reasons?
A pregnant woman is expected and encouraged to continue working, as it is believed that this will ease labour and delivery. Arguments and disputes are to be avoided as the baby may be disturbed by them. Nutritious foods and herbal soups should be eaten, and ‘sharp’ foods such as pineapple and some other fruits avoided as they may cause miscarriage. Eating squid and crab are discouraged: the former is believed to cause the uterus to ‘stick’ during delivery, the latter to result in a mischievous child. Overeating may cause an overlarge baby and thus a difficult labour and delivery. A pregnant woman should not walk around barefoot.
Rubbing the abdomen too often is thought to result in a spoilt and overdemanding child. No! I hope not! I’m doing it really often. I just want my baby know I love her so much!!!
Old traditions believe that the sex of a baby can be determined by the shape of the pregnant woman’s abdomen, especially after the first three months. If the appearance of the belly is pointed, then the child will be male, if rounded, female. Actually people from many countries think the same way. For example Russians.
It is considered insauspicous to give a name to an unborn baby, as this displays and eagerness on the part of the parents for a child of a particular sex, and may cause disappointment if the child is of the different sex. Probably it’s true. You never know exactly who is in there!
The major responsibility for care of the pregnant woman is taken by her mother-in-law, not her husband. I don’t understand why? Probably because long time ago woman usually lived in husband’s family after the marriage. But what about him?
The production of a male heir is of paramount importance in Chinese culture; indeed some Chinese may seek the help of a holy man or shaman if male offspring do not appear. Superstition has it that a couple should eat certain types of food for the seven days leading up to conception to conceive a certain sex baby: tofu, mushrooms, carrots and lettuce for a male child, pickles, meat and fish for a female.
Male descendents are essential to ensure the continuance of ancestor worship and the continuity of family lineage and name. Females cannot inherit, and in the Chinese family system wife lives with the husband’s family and is deemed as no longer part of her own family, but the property of the husband’s family. Female offspring are thus thought of as being only ‘temporary’ family members, while male offspring ‘belong’ to the family for their lives. Yeah, that’s why they all will have a big problem very soon. Chinese are allowed to have only one child by the government. And everybody wants a boy. So who is going to give a birth to children in twenty – thirty years?

I am very happy that the medicine has reached a big progress at present time. Medicine can easily overcome now a lot of unsoluble before problems.
One of my friends got pregnant and recognizes by blood test that she is in a big trouble. She got a Rhesus factor problem.
Usually it happens if a husband has a positive Rhesus factor, and a wife has a negative one. In this case baby will receive in a half of all cases a positive Rhesus factor. This means that if mummy’s blood comes into contact with her baby’s, she’ll develop antibodies to it. Nature has already taken care of that and the blood of mum and a baby is not mixed. That is why there is no danger for your first positive Rhesus factor baby (in a case if you didn’t make an abortion before, didn’t have a miscarriage or termination).
But when woman is giving birth some of baby’s blood may get into her circulation.
If it does happen, the woman will produce antibodies to the Rhesus factor positive blood and they’ll stay in her blood and if she becomes pregnant again, problems can arise.
During the second pregnancy these antibodies will attack Rhesus factor positive baby’s blood, causing it to breaking down the red blood cells of the baby and anemia will develop. In severe cases this hemolytic disease can cause illness, brain damage and even death.
So mummy’s organism behaves like he is not her native child. He is an enemy who needs to be destroyed. It is even terrible to think about it!
However problems at repeated pregnancy can be avoided now. Women who are Rhesus factor negative are usually given an injection of a special substance right after the baby is born (or after a miscarriage or termination). This helps the Rhesus factor negative mother by suppressing her ability to react to the Rhesus factor positive red cells. Reactions to the medication are generally minor, including soreness at the injection sight and sometimes a slight fever.
Sometimes an injection is given to Rhesus factor negative women during pregnancy.
So it is not a problem anymore!!!!! And any Rhesus factor negative woman and Rhesus factor positive man can have as many children as they want!!!!!!!!!!!!!

German government has published the report concerning family questions. It criticizes the young German mums who bring up their children insufficiently.
Federal minister of Germany for family questions Ursula von der Leyen has presented in Berlin the report prepared in her ministry.
Two hours on education of the child.
The document criticizes the way of life of the unemployed young women who have children. “Young German mothers are present on a labour market very slightly. However they prefer to spend their free time in entertainments, but not in household chores”.
According to the ministry, German mums spend with their children only 2 hours and 18 minutes per day on the average. Worth notice that in those European countries where young women are more actively working - in Sweden, Norway, Finland, France - every day they spend with children approximately as much time, as Germany women (2-2,5 hours).
Desire to have children is decreasing
Besides the family policy of the German government focused, first of all, on financial attitudes is criticized in the report. «That is why German young men do not consider a birth of children as important component of the vital plans. That is their essential difference from the same aged people from France, Netherlands, Great Britain and Denmark “.
Long time was considered, that women do not wish to have children because of their career. Career and family are incompatible. However now experts observe with anxiety, that young people don’t have any desire to have children.
According to the report, young women from other European countries at the age of 20 till 34 years consider ideal family with 2-3 children. In Germany many women consider optimum family with the only child. A lot of men don’t want to have children at all.
That is really sad. I think that the demografic situation is getting worse in Germany every year. The population is getting older. Who is going to work and to feed the nation in about 30 – 40 years?????

The girl from West Lothian would become one of the United Kingdom’s youngest mothers.
The teenage boy is due to appear in court in July charged with rape because of the age of the girl, who is now 12.
She said she was looking forward to motherhood and hopes she has a boy when she gives birth.
The girl added that she thought she would be able to cope as she’d had “lots of practice” looking after young children.
“I’m enjoying being pregnant - even though I get a bit of a sore back and sore ribs.”
Her 34-year-old mother told the newspaper: “I’m not ashamed of my daughter at all - in fact, I’m proud of her for keeping her baby.”
The newspaper said the girl smokes up to 20 cigarettes a day.

Is she crazy? What can she give to her future child at the age of 12? Love? Financial stability? Education? She is a child herself. Does she understand that to have a child is a huge responsibility? For the rest of life…… According to the newspaper the girl smokes up to 20 cigarettes a day. So I don’t think she understands. I’m not telling to make an abortion. You know it is not my business, but she should think before… at least she can give up smoking now. Her body is not ready to have a baby at all and smoking is not the best thing now…

Jurgen Hass is going to adopt couple hundred children in Paraguay where he lives now. The 56-years old pensioner (earlier lived in the Rhine small town Rees), intends to provide children with social benefits provided by German law. He says that this social benefits can provide a normal living of eight members’ family for the whole month in such country as Paraguay.
However he is doing it not because of love or desire to facilitate children’s living in poor families. His main aim is to revenge the German state for the unfair treatment to him. He worked as the legal adviser without having special education. So the German court fined him for 100 thousand euro, and later on charge in swindle has sentenced him to three years of prison. He thinks that it is not fair.
Now Jurgen Hass lives in Paraguay and his German pension is about 1000 euros. This is big money for this country. He has already adopted more than 300 children from Paraguay, Romania, Hungary, Moldova, Russia, Ukraine and India. The father of how many children he is going to be? There is no any limit he says. He sad that a thousand is enough for the beginning. His “kindness” doesn’t cost the pensioner any euro. The state cannot take away from him his pension or force him to pay for his “love to children” from it.
This happens because of the “hole” in the parental rights law the new version of which the Bundestag has accepted in 1998. The law allows the man to recognize himself as the father of the child if his/her mother agrees and nobody else declares the fatherly rights. All his adopted children received German citizenship. So, according to him – he gives good slap in the face to the German government and provides an opportunity for children from poor families in the countries of the third world to receive German education and the social help from Germany.
Jurgen Hass is not only one who is using such «holes» in the German legislation. There is one more unemployed man in Berlin who annually recognizes himself as the father of about ten children from Bosnia and Vietnam. As a result they are getting the right to stay in Germany and also to receive social and children’s grants. And “philanthropist” gets about one and a half thousand euro for each child. The state can’t stop him while the present law operates.
The Minister of Justice of Germany Brigitte Cupris has presented the new project of the act in April which will give the possibility to the state to punish such men for abusing the law on paternity.

Twins, who accrete by their bodies in a parent womb, are called Siamese. This term is connected with the pair of Chinese twins that were born in 1811 in Thailand (then it was Siam). Boys (parents have named them Chang - “left” and Eng - “right”) accreted in the field of a solar plexus. They had common navel and liver. When they were young they worked as sellers and messengers. At the age of 18 they immigrated to the United States of America and began to go on tour with improbable success. They married sisters, gave birth to more than 20 children and died in the age of 63.
Other pair - the well-known Siamese twins - sisters Blazhek - was born in 1878. Sisters became musicians - violinist and harp-player, one of them gave birth to the child.
In 1952 doctor Jacque Geller (USA) lead the first successful operation on division of Siamese twins. Now such operations are made even more often, and Siamese twins have more and more chances for a high-grade independent life.

The big news from the latest report on births from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is that American women are having more babies! The U.S. birth rate jumped 3 percent from 2002 to 2004, to more than 4.1 million births — the highest number since 1962 (except for a brief spike in 1990). The United States is now boasting climbing birth rates again, following the baby decline of the 1990s.
It is very interesting for me what is going on in the world? Why demographic situation is so different all over the world? I know it depends on religion and wealth of nation.
For example in some countries of Africa and the Muslim countries the religion encourages a plenty of children in family. Abortions can be forbidden in general. China has the other problem. The government forbids having more than one child in family even if parents wish to have more children. Except for that many Chinese people wish to have the son because he continues the dynasty. Most of them when they find out that they will have a girl do the abortion. So there’s gonna be a huge problem very soon. Quantity of boys is growing too fast. It is really bad.
About wealth. Unites States is a rich country and it’s population is growing now. But there are a lots of rich countries in Europe. And I know that demographic situation is not very good there. Why it is so different? Why it is going on this way?

One of my friends has admitted to me, that during the pregnancy (now she has two very nice children) she was on the verge of divorce … sixteen times. Fortunately, it did not happen. She has admitted to me what ideas have led her to such condition. So I decided to ask some simple men who have wide experience of home life about it. I think, that to those readers who have same doubts, it will be interesting to learn, that «the opposite party » thinks in this occasion.
IDEA 1. It is necessary to get divorced, yet late. He loved me only when I had a perfect figure. And he doesn’t need me now. He looks at beautiful girls.
Michael, the father of three children:
It is absolutely wrong. The man can look anywhere and it doesn’t mean he lost his interest to his wife. And sexuality of a woman doesn’t depend on whether she is pregnant or not. Everything depends on how she feels herself and how she is acting.
Oleg, the father of two children:
The man (normal) marries the woman not because of a figure, he is involved in her absolutely with other qualities. And these remarkable qualities are shown especially brightly during the pregnancy.
IDEA 2. He is selfish. I am pregnant now. I need his help and care, but he doesn’t understand it. He turns on the TV when I want to sleep. He never washes dishes after himself. I didn’t pay attention to it before, but it is hard for me now to do some housework. My friend’s husband called his wife five times a day, massaged her when she was pregnant and mine ….
Peter, the father of three children:
On the contrary, when the beloved woman is pregnant, man feels the greater responsibility for her than earlier. But sometimes he doesn’t think about household trifles. Women have more flexible mentality, than the man. That’s why I consider, that she should take the initiative and talk to him, but without hysterics and screams. To find out attitudes and to discuss each other’s duties. It is important to choose a right moment for such conversation. For example, it is not necessary to find out attitudes, when both are tired.
IDEA 3. He considers, that it is impossible to communicate with me because I translate any theme on the child. And it, as seems to me,he is interested in our future kid insufficiently: inattentively listens to me when I tell about how he now looks and what he can do now. Besides the husband demands attention and care, but I need it too.
I asked to comment this idea several men of different age and with various life experience. All of them have declared, that it is always interesting to father how his child develops. Therefore it is possible to advise future mum who is overcome with similar ideas to calm down and to be more critical to herself: Probably your husband is tired. You have started talking to him when he was going to have a rest? Remember, it is a hard time for him too now: he works more than usually to provide the worthy future to you and your kid. And your husband really demands attention and care. Therefore do not reproach the husband, try to calm down, and try to be more tender, and you will see, that he will give more attention to you too.

IDEA 4. It seems to me, that when I have become pregnant, the husband began to hesitate of me. We always went together everywhere earlier, but now he doesn’t wish to appear with me in public. Recently he went to his friend’s birthday party and told me that everyone will be there without wives. Perhaps, the love has passed?

Vladimir, the father of the adult daughter:
The love has not passed. Often future fathers (especially if they are very young, and this is his first kid) hesitate of enhanced attention of associates, their questions and jokes. What should woman do in this case? Do not be silent, do not take offence. It is necessary to talk to the husband, to explain. Be patient. When your husband becomes more senior and wiser, he will behave absolutely differently.

What I can say in this occasion? Whether it is necessary to you to get divorced right now? You need an encouragement instead of tears and finding-out of attitudes. Whether it is necessary for you? It is your decision. But the woman should remember that when she is pregnant, she is not absolutely adequately estimates a situation. By the opinion of psychologists there are some changes in mentality of the pregnant woman because of hormonal reorganizations. In such condition the woman can strongly react to trifles which earlier would just pass unnoticed. And after pregnancy she will regret about the decision to divorce, but it will be too late.

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