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German government has published the report concerning family questions. It criticizes the young German mums who bring up their children insufficiently.
Federal minister of Germany for family questions Ursula von der Leyen has presented in Berlin the report prepared in her ministry.
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The document criticizes the way of life of the unemployed young women who have children. “Young German mothers are present on a labour market very slightly. However they prefer to spend their free time in entertainments, but not in household chores”.
According to the ministry, German mums spend with their children only 2 hours and 18 minutes per day on the average. Worth notice that in those European countries where young women are more actively working - in Sweden, Norway, Finland, France - every day they spend with children approximately as much time, as Germany women (2-2,5 hours).
Desire to have children is decreasing
Besides the family policy of the German government focused, first of all, on financial attitudes is criticized in the report. «That is why German young men do not consider a birth of children as important component of the vital plans. That is their essential difference from the same aged people from France, Netherlands, Great Britain and Denmark “.
Long time was considered, that women do not wish to have children because of their career. Career and family are incompatible. However now experts observe with anxiety, that young people don’t have any desire to have children.
According to the report, young women from other European countries at the age of 20 till 34 years consider ideal family with 2-3 children. In Germany many women consider optimum family with the only child. A lot of men don’t want to have children at all.
That is really sad. I think that the demografic situation is getting worse in Germany every year. The population is getting older. Who is going to work and to feed the nation in about 30 – 40 years?????

The girl from West Lothian would become one of the United Kingdom’s youngest mothers.
The teenage boy is due to appear in court in July charged with rape because of the age of the girl, who is now 12.
She said she was looking forward to motherhood and hopes she has a boy when she gives birth.
The girl added that she thought she would be able to cope as she’d had “lots of practice” looking after young children.
“I’m enjoying being pregnant - even though I get a bit of a sore back and sore ribs.”
Her 34-year-old mother told the newspaper: “I’m not ashamed of my daughter at all - in fact, I’m proud of her for keeping her baby.”
The newspaper said the girl smokes up to 20 cigarettes a day.

Is she crazy? What can she give to her future child at the age of 12? Love? Financial stability? Education? She is a child herself. Does she understand that to have a child is a huge responsibility? For the rest of life…… According to the newspaper the girl smokes up to 20 cigarettes a day. So I don’t think she understands. I’m not telling to make an abortion. You know it is not my business, but she should think before… at least she can give up smoking now. Her body is not ready to have a baby at all and smoking is not the best thing now…

Jurgen Hass is going to adopt couple hundred children in Paraguay where he lives now. The 56-years old pensioner (earlier lived in the Rhine small town Rees), intends to provide children with social benefits provided by German law. He says that this social benefits can provide a normal living of eight members’ family for the whole month in such country as Paraguay.
However he is doing it not because of love or desire to facilitate children’s living in poor families. His main aim is to revenge the German state for the unfair treatment to him. He worked as the legal adviser without having special education. So the German court fined him for 100 thousand euro, and later on charge in swindle has sentenced him to three years of prison. He thinks that it is not fair.
Now Jurgen Hass lives in Paraguay and his German pension is about 1000 euros. This is big money for this country. He has already adopted more than 300 children from Paraguay, Romania, Hungary, Moldova, Russia, Ukraine and India. The father of how many children he is going to be? There is no any limit he says. He sad that a thousand is enough for the beginning. His “kindness” doesn’t cost the pensioner any euro. The state cannot take away from him his pension or force him to pay for his “love to children” from it.
This happens because of the “hole” in the parental rights law the new version of which the Bundestag has accepted in 1998. The law allows the man to recognize himself as the father of the child if his/her mother agrees and nobody else declares the fatherly rights. All his adopted children received German citizenship. So, according to him – he gives good slap in the face to the German government and provides an opportunity for children from poor families in the countries of the third world to receive German education and the social help from Germany.
Jurgen Hass is not only one who is using such «holes» in the German legislation. There is one more unemployed man in Berlin who annually recognizes himself as the father of about ten children from Bosnia and Vietnam. As a result they are getting the right to stay in Germany and also to receive social and children’s grants. And “philanthropist” gets about one and a half thousand euro for each child. The state can’t stop him while the present law operates.
The Minister of Justice of Germany Brigitte Cupris has presented the new project of the act in April which will give the possibility to the state to punish such men for abusing the law on paternity.

Twins, who accrete by their bodies in a parent womb, are called Siamese. This term is connected with the pair of Chinese twins that were born in 1811 in Thailand (then it was Siam). Boys (parents have named them Chang - “left” and Eng - “right”) accreted in the field of a solar plexus. They had common navel and liver. When they were young they worked as sellers and messengers. At the age of 18 they immigrated to the United States of America and began to go on tour with improbable success. They married sisters, gave birth to more than 20 children and died in the age of 63.
Other pair - the well-known Siamese twins - sisters Blazhek - was born in 1878. Sisters became musicians - violinist and harp-player, one of them gave birth to the child.
In 1952 doctor Jacque Geller (USA) lead the first successful operation on division of Siamese twins. Now such operations are made even more often, and Siamese twins have more and more chances for a high-grade independent life.

The big news from the latest report on births from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) is that American women are having more babies! The U.S. birth rate jumped 3 percent from 2002 to 2004, to more than 4.1 million births — the highest number since 1962 (except for a brief spike in 1990). The United States is now boasting climbing birth rates again, following the baby decline of the 1990s.
It is very interesting for me what is going on in the world? Why demographic situation is so different all over the world? I know it depends on religion and wealth of nation.
For example in some countries of Africa and the Muslim countries the religion encourages a plenty of children in family. Abortions can be forbidden in general. China has the other problem. The government forbids having more than one child in family even if parents wish to have more children. Except for that many Chinese people wish to have the son because he continues the dynasty. Most of them when they find out that they will have a girl do the abortion. So there’s gonna be a huge problem very soon. Quantity of boys is growing too fast. It is really bad.
About wealth. Unites States is a rich country and it’s population is growing now. But there are a lots of rich countries in Europe. And I know that demographic situation is not very good there. Why it is so different? Why it is going on this way?

I am afraid of doctors. I am afraid of blood and I am afraid to give birth to my baby alone. I have read a lot of literature on this theme. And I understood, that on the one hand, I want my husband to be with me, to calm me down, to support, to massage me, to help me breathe correctly. But on the other hand, the statistics shows, that number of divorces among pairs which gave birth together is higher than among pairs where the husband did not participate. According to statistics quarter of all American men who took part in childbirth needed sexological help after that.
Each woman wants her husband to know how hard and painfully it was. But I think, that I will better tell him about it.
Childbirth is a difficult process. And the woman not always looks attractively. I know, that if my husband will be there I will be worried about how do I look.

I think it is better for me to calm down and to think only about my little baby. I’ll see him so soon!!!

After 16 weeks of pregnancy the child starts to hear. He hears sounds of mommy’s body: heartbeat, noise of blood, sounds of a stomach.
He can already hear a voice of mother and even recognizes it!
He hears music and even can react to it. He calms down if it is pleasant. But if he doesn’t like he can even push and kick you! Scientists consider that babies are capable to distinguish the native language from foreign. They like those songs and fairy tales which they heard before the birth.
I already have picked up some fairy tales for my future child. I know that when he will be born, he will calm down and fall asleep quicker after reading (singing) his favorite ones! And I hope it will help me too!!!

One of my friends has admitted to me, that during the pregnancy (now she has two very nice children) she was on the verge of divorce … sixteen times. Fortunately, it did not happen. She has admitted to me what ideas have led her to such condition. So I decided to ask some simple men who have wide experience of home life about it. I think, that to those readers who have same doubts, it will be interesting to learn, that «the opposite party » thinks in this occasion.
IDEA 1. It is necessary to get divorced, yet late. He loved me only when I had a perfect figure. And he doesn’t need me now. He looks at beautiful girls.
Michael, the father of three children:
It is absolutely wrong. The man can look anywhere and it doesn’t mean he lost his interest to his wife. And sexuality of a woman doesn’t depend on whether she is pregnant or not. Everything depends on how she feels herself and how she is acting.
Oleg, the father of two children:
The man (normal) marries the woman not because of a figure, he is involved in her absolutely with other qualities. And these remarkable qualities are shown especially brightly during the pregnancy.
IDEA 2. He is selfish. I am pregnant now. I need his help and care, but he doesn’t understand it. He turns on the TV when I want to sleep. He never washes dishes after himself. I didn’t pay attention to it before, but it is hard for me now to do some housework. My friend’s husband called his wife five times a day, massaged her when she was pregnant and mine ….
Peter, the father of three children:
On the contrary, when the beloved woman is pregnant, man feels the greater responsibility for her than earlier. But sometimes he doesn’t think about household trifles. Women have more flexible mentality, than the man. That’s why I consider, that she should take the initiative and talk to him, but without hysterics and screams. To find out attitudes and to discuss each other’s duties. It is important to choose a right moment for such conversation. For example, it is not necessary to find out attitudes, when both are tired.
IDEA 3. He considers, that it is impossible to communicate with me because I translate any theme on the child. And it, as seems to me,he is interested in our future kid insufficiently: inattentively listens to me when I tell about how he now looks and what he can do now. Besides the husband demands attention and care, but I need it too.
I asked to comment this idea several men of different age and with various life experience. All of them have declared, that it is always interesting to father how his child develops. Therefore it is possible to advise future mum who is overcome with similar ideas to calm down and to be more critical to herself: Probably your husband is tired. You have started talking to him when he was going to have a rest? Remember, it is a hard time for him too now: he works more than usually to provide the worthy future to you and your kid. And your husband really demands attention and care. Therefore do not reproach the husband, try to calm down, and try to be more tender, and you will see, that he will give more attention to you too.

IDEA 4. It seems to me, that when I have become pregnant, the husband began to hesitate of me. We always went together everywhere earlier, but now he doesn’t wish to appear with me in public. Recently he went to his friend’s birthday party and told me that everyone will be there without wives. Perhaps, the love has passed?

Vladimir, the father of the adult daughter:
The love has not passed. Often future fathers (especially if they are very young, and this is his first kid) hesitate of enhanced attention of associates, their questions and jokes. What should woman do in this case? Do not be silent, do not take offence. It is necessary to talk to the husband, to explain. Be patient. When your husband becomes more senior and wiser, he will behave absolutely differently.

What I can say in this occasion? Whether it is necessary to you to get divorced right now? You need an encouragement instead of tears and finding-out of attitudes. Whether it is necessary for you? It is your decision. But the woman should remember that when she is pregnant, she is not absolutely adequately estimates a situation. By the opinion of psychologists there are some changes in mentality of the pregnant woman because of hormonal reorganizations. In such condition the woman can strongly react to trifles which earlier would just pass unnoticed. And after pregnancy she will regret about the decision to divorce, but it will be too late.

There are some theories…

Weight theory
Italian scientist Angelo Gagnacci studied about 10000 women recently confined and found out that women’s weight can influence the sex of baby. If the woman before pregnancy was less than 54 kg (113 lbs) she probably will give birth to a girl. Among women in this weight category every hundred newborn girls is accompanied by 98 newborn boys. Among women that weight more than 54 kg correlation is another: 110 boys and 100 girls. Probability of delivering a boy increases.
Gagnacci thinks that the boys are usually bigger and it’s harder for miniature women to give them birth. The nature took care of them in this way.
Theory of blood renewal
This method is based on terms of blood renewal. Men’s blood renews once in 4 years, women’s once in 3 years. Sex of a baby depends on whose blood is “younger” – mom’s or dad’s. You have to take into consideration big blood losses – operations, childbirth, donating the blood. After that the term begins from 0.
Age theory
They say that the correlation of age of parents can influence child’s sex. In families where husband is older than wife (5-17 years) it is more probable that first baby will be a boy. In families where the situation is reverse a girl has more chances.

To my mind only theory of blood renewal is worth attention. Other theories are not so convincing. I get different results according to them. And what about you?

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