How can we cope with child’s school problems?
How can we cope with child’s school problems? They are so different that sometimes it is very difficult even for specialists to cope with them. Sometimes parents have not enough patience and understanding. But of course most of all children suffer from school problems. If these problems follow one after another a child simply give in as he/she begins to consider himself helpless and unable and all his/her efforts seem useless. Psychologists are convinced that the results of education depend not only on someone’s abilities to accomplish a task but also on assurance in its accomplishment. But if failures follow one after another finally any child says:”I will never accomplish it.”
Here I can give some piece of advice that can help the parents to cope with difficulties if they exist:
1. First of all we should not despair if some school problems appear. But if this happens we should not show this to our child as if this problem is our personal problem. Our main task is to help a child.
2. You should be ready for a long-term work with your child as he can not cope with his problems himself.
3. Your main help is to support him and to assure his strength. Try to release the feeling of intension and fault for the failures. If you pay attention to your child only only to ask how he is you create a foundation for new problems.
4. Forget the question: “What mark have you got?” Do not make him immediately tell you about school affairs if your child is upset. Let him tell you when he wants to tell you himself. Children in most cases do so when they are sure in parents’ support.
5. Do not discuss the problems with a teacher when your child is present. It is better to do this without him. Do not admire the success of other children too much.
6. You should take interest in homework accomplishment only if you constantly help your child. You must have enough patience when you work with your child as it is very hard to overcome any difficulties. It is very important to be totally absorbed by your child. None must disturb you. It is also very important with whom your child will do his homework. Mothers are gentle-hearted, but they have not enough patience and they are too emotional. Fathers are crueler but they are quieter at the same time.
During preparing the homework a child must stop to have rest every half an hour. It is very important for the health of your child.
7. Try to support your child if he does not succeed at school and always encourage him if he shows even insignificant good results. It is very important for every child to know that his parents notice his success. But from the other side your child must not get used to your encouragement.
8. A child with problems at school should have a strict day regimen as it is very important in overcoming his problems.
9. Try to spend with your child as much time as possible and you maybe can avoid most of existing problems.